I’m Japanese.
But when it comes to dating… I guess I’m not so typical.
I hold hands in public.
I say “I love you” when I feel it.
I don’t like “gray zones.”
That’s not always how it works in Japan.
Here’s what I mean:
1. Confession Culture
In Japan, most romantic relationships begin with a clear confession.
Something like: “Will you go out with me?” – it’s a defining moment.
I actually did that too. Even though I enjoy a natural, relaxed connection,
I still believe that feelings should be expressed clearly and honestly.
So maybe I’m a bit of a mix—Western in how I act,
but still Japanese in how I express love through words.
2. Public Display of Affection (PDA)
Most Japanese couples avoid showing affection in public.
For many, just holding hands is already a big step.
Hugging or leaning on each other in public is rare, especially in busy places.
But I’m different.
I like hugging my girlfriend, walking close together,
even leaning on her shoulder while we wait for the train.
Sometimes people glance at us—but honestly, I don’t care.
To me, love is warm and natural.
Why hide something so genuine?
3. The Gray Zone
In Japan, I’ve seen many couples texting every day, going on multiple dates for weeks,
and still saying things like: “Are we dating? I’m not sure.”
This kind of “gray zone” is surprisingly common here.
Relationships often stay undefined for a long time, and people hesitate to put a label on it.
I can’t deal with that kind of uncertainty.
If I like someone, I say it.
If I want to be with them, I ask.
Being honest and clear from the beginning doesn’t make the relationship any less romantic.
If anything, I think it makes it more meaningful.
4. My Thoughts
Japanese dating culture is beautiful in its own way—quiet, gentle, respectful.
And I respect that.
But not every Japanese person fits perfectly into that mold.
The essence of love is about who you love—and loving openly and honestly.
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